When I see ‘woman’, I think of strength, beauty, ambition, kindness, love, perfection. So why don’t you see yourself as that? ‘They’ tell you the colour you should wear, the ‘virtues’ you should develop, the career you should pursue, the job you should get, how much you are allowed to earn, that you must get married to complete yourself and even the age at which you must be married, that you should have moderate ambition, that you should ‘swallow’ the abuse for your children because you are a mother,that you should let the males take the lead while you follow. ‘They’ tell you many things.
But really, who are they? Who tells us these things? Our mothers, our sisters, our aunties, our teachers. Do you really blame them? After all, they were taught the same thing.
Society makes us think a certain way, telling us to be mediocre. But how long can we blame society when we are the ‘society’ that teach our daughters how to be ‘proper’ ladies’?
Well, as for me and my house, we refuse to be ‘proper’ girls, women, ladies, if being proper means being subordinate , mediocre or weak.
Let us come together, strong,regardless of our ethnicity, race, religion, beliefs and make a new society for our girls, one where they are taught to be as ambitious as they wish, be bosses of their worlds, earn big, have the right virtues, do what they want to, when they want to and because they want to.
This is who a real woman is.
Happy International Women’s Day.
Dedicated to my unborn daughters, Ivenna and Sonna. I know you will make a difference.
Thank you Angelina Ogbonna for teaching me right.
Nneoma Ogbonna©